I recently read another blog that really hit home.
Here is the link, along with a passage from the post:
A wise counselor cut through the emotional red tape and pointed out some simple truths. He needed time and undivided attention. I was stretched to the limit. He needed to be babied. I already had babies. I was unable to prioritize his needs over the needs of our younger children. She reiterated and cemented some facts in our minds. There is a reason that most adoption specialists recommend against adopting out of birth order. Children with attachment-related negative behaviors often thrive as the youngest or only child. Second placements succeed at a very high percentage rate because the second family is prepared for the behavioral challenges and the situation is tailored to the child’s needs. She provided a little balsam for our raw emotions. Some children, she told us, just need a transitional family. Some families and kids are a poor fit. They usually succeed in their second home, sometimes without ever demonstrating the same negative behaviors. As much as I hated being a ‘poor fit’ for my child, I knew that it was true.
Dreams end. Hearts break.
I just read a friend's blog and it was like she was speaking directly to me tonight.
Today T turned 10 years old. Wow, already into the double digit years. He enjoyed every minute if the day, loving all the attention. T has had a rough year with the adjustments at home, but now looking forward to a new year full of his amazing spirit for life. He is one fun kid and can't wait to see what the next ten years brings.
